19 November 2011

My beef with the "community"

Sometimes I really dislike the queer community. Or at least many individuals within it. I think that one of the main goals is to be accepted and open and sharing with all people. Apparently though, some people want the community to be completely separate and uninfiltrated by anyone who may be an ally. Or they want thier particular letter of the acronym (LGBTQIA etc) to be a separate entity apart from all the others. There is a lot of animosity because of this. Gay men and lesbians disliking bisexuals because they aren't fully homosexual. Lesbians disliking transguys for deserting womanhood. Gay males refusing to acknowledge transguys as datable males. Transguys thinking they're better and more trans than transwomen simply because they might pass better. Trans people who are further along in transition thinking they are better or more trans than those who are further behind and those who don't desire to medically transition.

All of those instances are reprehensible, but the biggest transgression I've recently seen is the queer community not ackowleging acceptance from hetero and cis allies. If we ever want any weight in this world, regarding politics especially, we need allies to work with us. We need to be seen as normal, everyday people and not a separate, exclusive club.

Unfortunately transpeople cannot escape from the sexuality acronym. We are simply not as accepted or numerous. We need the extra voices. Also, often transpeople do end up or start off within the sexuality letters, whether a transguy was once a lesbian or a transwoman is now, etc.

The animosity within the community breaks down all its arguments about inclusiveness, normality, love and, well, community.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

a few days ago i attended a discussion with an LGBT... group on my campus. it was the first time that i had attended anything with this group. not a single person said hi to me when i entered the room. this is an experience that i've had a few times with other groups. i don't scream gay. i often don't tell people what my identity is. and every time i walk into a lgbt group, one where i should be able to be comfortable with who i am no one will even say hello because i don't look like an ├╝ber butch dyke.

i've heard a lot of people involved int he community complain that strait people don't recognize them, don't want to be active in helping with gay rights, don't want to be friends with the gays. i think its the opposite, the discrimination within the lgbt community as well as towards allys is just as strong as the discrimination towards them.